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Flirting Tip

Flirting Approaches

You have to find the right spot to flirt. A popular flirting spot is the local bar. Even a bar, though, has unstated rules: If you sit at the bar, you’re open for flirting. However, if you sit at a table, you’re more reserved. The further the table is from the bar, the more you want to be left alone.

A related rule: The more an establishment is a food-serving establishment, the less open people are to flirting. Food creates a more formal atmosphere.

Hot-beds of Flirting
One of the reasons the “learning-places” (schools, colleges, and so forth) are such “hot-beds of flirting” is because the students don’t “have to struggle to find topics of mutual interest.” If you’re in a Soviet history class, it’s easy to flirt under the guise of discussing the Bolsheviks.

Workplaces have more stringent rules about flirting. Often, flirting is restricted to particular areas, such as near the coffee machine or water cooler. If you’re uncertain as to where it’s acceptable, take your cue from “the highest regarded individuals in the company.” Watch their behavior and flirt where they flirt.

Flirting is usually acceptable in sports settings: at the gym, the tennis court, the golf course, and so forth. Be careful about who you flirt with in this setting. If someone is a serious competitor, they’re there to train and are less likely to flirt. You’re more likely to win the admiration of weekend athletes – people who are there to get in shape and have fun.

Battle of the Sexes
Because “men tend to see the world in more sexual terms than women,” they “have a tendency to mistake friendly behavior for sexual flirting.” Therefore, women need to be careful about how their actions are being interpreted by men. Also, men need to be aware of their natural tendency to distort.

Flirting Your Way to a Date
Try finding someone roughly as attractive as you. That way, there’s a better chance you’ll stay together. A few things to keep in mind, though: women tend to underestimate their looks, while men tend to overestimate their looks, because there are “less rigid” rules for men’s beauty. The thing to take away: Women, flirt with men who you think look better than you. Men, bolster your flirting skills; you’ll need it.

Are good looks all there is to flirting? Of course not. It just gives you a strong leg up. Beyond good looks, confidence and charm can outweigh physical disadvantages.

Flirting Steps
The first step in flirting isn’t about you. It’s showing the other person you’re attracted to them. Think about it from your own experience. When you were told a particular person liked you, didn’t your impression of that person grow as well?

Flirting is all about language. But here’s the catch: your spoken language isn’t nearly as important as your body language. One study separates out the factors this way: People’s “initial impression of you is based 55% on your appearance and body-language, 38% on your style of speaking and only 7% on what you actually say.”

What are some ways to flirt using your body?

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